FAQ
Who is HMU for?
Hit Me Up prides itself on our diverse community of weirdos. If you’re looking for a safe, affirming and celebratory space to explore kink, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, queerness, gender fluidity…welcome to Hit Me Up! We welcome folks of all backgrounds and relationship structures (singles, couples, triads, & polycules galore!). We value equity, racial justice and diversity, and offer unique tickets for BIPOC folks to ensure access and equity in our events.
All of our events are located in the NYC region. Must be 21+ to attend.
How do you keep your events safe?
Our rules are actually enforced. If we say there’s a dress code, we will actually turn away anyone who doesn’t put in the effort to follow it. See our full consent policy for more details. We don’t oversell our events. There will always be space to breathe, to get away, and to get into what you’re into.
Aggressive, cruising, and abusive behavior are dealt with quickly.
Complaints and reports get action. We will never choose an extra ticket sale over risk to our members.
We are the guardians of the community, the space and the vibe, and we take that responsibility seriously. All of these things add up, and we think it shows in our membership and the incredible and weird things that can happen at our events.
Any feedback, concerns, questions are all welcome! Please email us at consent@hitmeupnyc.com.
How can I support HMU?
Check out our Patreon here. Of note, you must be a Vetted or Private member to become a Patron.
How can I get in touch?
Email us at hello@hitmeupnyc.com and we’ll be happy to connect with you!
Plus, sign up for our public newsletter here.
How can I apply?
Click here to fill out our application.
If you want to check on the status of your application, please write us at membership@hitmeupnyc.com *from the email you applied with.* And don’t forget to check your spam!